Is it ok to be a woman who likes to watch porn?

YES!

I am a woman who also loves to watch porn.  Most people think porn is absolutely disgusting but it drives me wild!  I should tell you that when you look at me you would never believe I would be the type of person to enjoy it so much.  I live a normal life, my husband and I have very successful careers, we’re the standard middle-class family, we have multiple children and spend our weekends driving from one activity to another.  I look like the average 30-something middle-class mom.  You would never look at me and think “Hmmm…. She loves porn” but I really do.  

I feel I should also mention that I’m a happily married woman who has sex with her husband at least 3-4 times a week, I also have a boyfriend and girlfriend I have sex with at least once a week and yet I still feel the desire to pleasure myself to porn on occasion.  I wouldn’t call myself a sex addict either, I don’t want to have sex with numerous sexual partners, I just love watching people enjoy sex and I love getting myself off to it.   

Are You Picky About What Kind of Porn you Watch?

I will say that I am rather picky about my porn. I enjoy watching women who look like they are truly enjoying the feel of whatever their partner(s) are doing to them at that moment.  I watch the videos of women who do it not to be popular but because they fucking love them some good dick and they love to have people watch them.  I can relate in that sense, I really enjoy people watching me do naughty things.

I really love to watch gang bangs (the ones where the woman doesn’t look like she’s getting raped but instead looks like she just went to the candy store and is now getting to taste every flavor of lollipop).  I love to watch the looks on the women’s faces when a new cock slides into their wet pussy, it’s the look of ecstasy at getting a new dick every five minutes that really gets me wet.

The look of extreme pleasure when they go from a long, skinny cock, to a thick short cock… the moans, the wetness as the cock slides in and out…. Fuck it gets me going… I must admit I don’t last very long watching it while I play with myself, sometimes with various toys and sometimes manually.  It took a while to find what I really liked, scrolling through video after video, clicking on some, and wishing I didn’t…  It made me wonder how many women are like me and like to watch naughty porn to get themselves off…. 

Is Porn Only for Men?

I will say I used to think porn was mostly made for men but I can see that over time the porn industry has really stepped it up to make porn that more women would like.  There’s the sensual, love making porn, erotic massages by men for women (yes, I have wished there were massage parlors for women who want a happy ending from a hot man with a perfect size cock who would spend time massaging my body, oil me up and get me wet and ready with his fingers and then slide his hard cock into me and make me cum all over the table.  What woman wouldn’t want that?), and even lesbian sex.   

How Many Women Actually Watch Porn?

I became curious about how many other women were like me and just secretly loved porn… I had to do my research and found that 32% of Porn Hub watchers were women.  I wasn’t alone after all.  According to Psychology Today there are  4 categories of women who like porn: 

Sexologists generally agree that porn-watching women fall into four groups: 

  • Some feel curious about sexual techniques and view porn to learn more.
  • Others experience male-style lust, feeling as horny as most men, and like virtually all Internet-connected men, use porn as a visual aid while self-sexing.
  • Some view feminist porn.
  • And many watch to spice up partner lovemaking.

What Category Do You Fall In?

  • Curious – Women who watch porn because they feel uninformed about sex and are curious to learn more.
  • Male Style Lust – Using porn as a visual aid to pleasure oneself.
  • Feminist Porn – Porn videos that contain sex however the partners converse, laugh, and have relationships.  The porn shows the whole body instead of fixating on the genitals.
  • Spice Up Love Making – Watching porn with your partner before or during sex to increase arousal.

What category do you fall in?  Do you find yourself curious about sexual acts?  Do you enjoy giving yourself amazing orgasms while you watch other women have them?  Do you like to watch other couples interact with each other while they pleasure each other? Do you watch it with your partner to make your sex life even spicer?  You may fall into one category or numerous.

For me, male-style lust and spicing up lovemaking are definitely on the top of my list.  My husband and I watch porn together.  Sometimes when I need to get in the mood, we’ll pull up porn, flip through the videos to find something we both like (It can take some time as he usually prefers anal sex and I prefer gang bangs or Czech gloryholes which are a bit too much for him) and get to watching.  We usually stroke each other while we watch which gets us ready to go.  Sometimes we’ll watch while we go at it which is fun as well.  

Celebrate Sexual Freedom

One woman who did celebrate sexual freedom and created Feminist Porn is Candida Royalle.  According to Wikipedia , Royalle was a sex-positive, sex educator, who produced pornography geared toward women.  There were numerous studies performed where women were shown regular porn films and then feminist porn.  The study found that women were repulsed by regular porn but enjoyed and even got aroused by feminist porn.  Unfortunately, the industry did not see these videos as true porn and Royalle had a difficult time getting her videos mainstream.  I hope that more porn is created with the female market in mind.

I believe society has a huge stigma against the porn industry especially when it comes to women watching and enjoying porn.  I don’t believe that we as women should be ashamed that we watch porn, I think instead we should celebrate our sexual freedom. I am proud to be a woman with a very healthy sex life who enjoys porn.  If you are like me, you should celebrate how awesome you are.

REFERENCES

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/202006/is-why-many-women-watch-porn

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Candida_Royalle

 

 

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