Interview: A Journey from Swingers to Exclusive Polyamory
Summary: Crys interviews a poly couple and explores the challenges and benefits of the lifestyle, their origins, solid advice for newcomers, and valuable resources for those who are curious
Average American married couple of 18 years and in alternative lifestyles for 17
Origin stories: How did it all start
Communication is the key to the spice of life
Breaks are needed: Everything is good in moderation and gives you the bandwidth to regroup
What swinger encounters and poly dating look like
There are different swingers: Soft swap, full swap – the level depends on the couple.
How we became exclusively polyamorous
Growing pains in any relationship, but it strengthens the couple and builds friendship, trust, respect, and love
Who handles overly aggressive advances?
What are the club rules or lifestyle party rules?
Are there single men and single women (unicorn) swingers?
How do you set boundaries and say no?
Reasons why people join the lifestyle vary from being married to young and wanting to explore or being bicurious, or even the wrong reason like trying to fix a marriage
Know your intent going in, and your marriage and poly relationships will be strong.
Some tools to get you started are apps like LL (Lifestyle Lounge); SLS; 3fun; Kasidie
How do you maintain a poly relationship?
Advice for new couples: it is all about communication and being vulnerable
