BDSM & Mindfulness Unlock The Door To Heightened Sexual Satisfaction

A quiet mind, heightened senses, and intense situational awareness can evoke an earth-shattering sexual experience.  What would you say if I told you that you could channel that experience whenever and wherever you wanted as if you were reliving it?  

One word – HOW? 

Most of us are equipped with horrible demon inner monologues making lists, judging, and giving play-by-plays of past, present, and future that we can’t silence.  Some people vacuum, ride motorcycles, exercise, or drive around town to shut off their demons.  Mindfulness controls those demons and opens a world of benefits, including MAGNIFICENT SEX.  

Mindfulness is not what most people think of as deep meditation to the likes of a cross-legged floating Yoda during a galactic battle. Instead, mindfulness is an intense awareness.  People participate in mindfulness in different ways and different areas of their life. For example, one way to firmly tap into the sex god/goddess within is immersing yourself in BDSM and grasping mindfulness by the shorties.

The Mindfulness BDSM Connection

A state of mindfulness is akin to an altered state of consciousness, a trance-like state.  In this altered state, you are freed of stress, anxiety, and the outside world – you are intensely focused and in the present with a quiet mind and a humming body.  Research has shown BDSM is a catalyst for mindfulness.  WHY?  Because BDSM safety requires absolute focus when engaged in a scene (play).  A recent study at the West Coast Centre for Sex Therapy highlights that BDSM practitioners show higher levels of mindfulness.

Doms notice their subs showing physical signs that they are entering mindfulness.  Doms have noted facial and breathing changes, relaxation of shoulders, and reactions heightened and in tune with the scene.  Pain can enhance a ‘high’; a type of intoxication and adrenaline similar to athletes when bursting through a performance barrier in the zone.  That zone is called flow.  Flow means you are immersed and intensely focused – you are present and in the now.  Another word for this zone is subspace.  Subspace is like being in a dream world of peace – entranced.  Doms enter a separate space called topspace.  Doms have to be intensely focused and gain a type of high, which I like to call a ‘contact high’ in a zone of dominance.

BDSM activities encompass sensory deprivation, restraints, blindfolds, and spanking – all of which open the mindfulness door because other senses are amplified.  Pain embraces the presence of the mind.  Can you think clearly when being spanked?  This is how BDSM connects you with incredible, liberating sex.  The accessories below will assist you in your journey to mindfulness.

Adjustable Nipple Clips

Fifty Shades of Grey Restrain Me Bondage Rope Twin Pack

Scandal Bondage Bar

The Vanilla Sex & Mindfulness Connection

Mindfulness isn’t just reserved for BDSM.  Mindfulness is an equal opportunity lover that enjoys every flavor, including vanilla.  Mindfulness can enhance your sex life or help you overcome challenges. In addition, mindfulness will increase your physical pleasure.  There are several ways to bring mindfulness into your bed.

How To Practice Mindful Sex

The first thing you will need to do is communicate with your partner.  It is perfectly acceptable to practice mindfulness by yourself, which is gratifying; however, sharing mindfulness with your partner requires that they know about it.  Once that is established, it is time to get into the moment by:

Get Vocal

Are they doing something that feels phenomenal – say it.  Do you want your partner to do something to you? Ask.  Shedding the awkwardness, actively listening to your lover, and expressing your wants and needs are essential to creating a bridge to mindful sex.  Verbalizing will become easier and more comfortable.  Who knows – you may end up craving those words. Communication is crucial to intimacy.

Watch

Keep your eyes open.  Lock eyes with your partner while you verbalize what you like.  Use your hands and demonstrate what you want – let them watch.  Take turns watching.  Speak with your eyes just as much as your lips.

Cleansing Breath

Inhale deep and exhale to clear all of the thoughts from your mind so you can focus on the now.  Don’t let thoughts of what you need to put on the shopping list block you from experiencing heightened pleasure.  What are you feeling right now?  Specifically, what are your fingers touching, what is being touched, and how does it feel?  Be there. Shut off the brain and focus on the physical sensations.  These mood setters will engage your senses:

Flame Drippers Candle Set Designed for Wax Play

Massage Candle – Aphrodisia – Roses – 5.7 Oz.

Adam and Eve Strawberry Clit Sensitizer Gel 1 Oz

Practice Makes Perfect

Practice these techniques on the go.  You can bring yourself into the present by queuing your body into what is going on right NOW.  Wake yourself up to the present moment at work, in the car, vacuuming the house – anywhere.

Benefits of Mindfulness

We have touched on several benefits throughout this article; however, they can’t be highlighted enough:

  • Reduced Anxiety
  • Less Stress
  • Better Sex Life, Increased Pleasure & Powerful Orgasms
  • Lowers Blood Pressure
  • Equipped to Master Challenges & Pain Control
  • Decreased Depression
  • Increased Sleep
  • Improved Mood
  • Enhances Compassion and Positive Emotions
  • Increased Focus and Decision Making
  • Emotional Control and Regulation
  • Improved Memory
  • Prevents Addiction Relapse
  • Increased Stamina
  • Maximizes Creativity, Communication Skills, Innovation & Performance
  • Increases Intimacy & Strengthens Relationships

Mindfulness actively increases the quality of life for all participants.  Mindfulness lights up all the right areas of the brain and helps to balance the mind and body, which touches every other area of your life.  This generation is lucky; they are teaching it in college.

Koru Mindfulness for College-Age Adults

Several Colleges throughout the US, such as Harvard and Duke Universities, have implemented a FREE Koru Mindfulness course for students because of the vast benefits of mindfulness that are evidence-proven.  Research has shown decreased anxiety, stress, depression, psychopathology, and increased performance.  Koru is the gateway to practicing mindfulness as an adult.

Rogers and Maytan created Koru specifically to meet the challenges of college students.  More studies are being conducted to see if including adolescents would be beneficial; the outlook is positive.  Koru differs from general mindfulness practices because emerging adults are under different pressures and require other stress management and self-care tools.  Koru focuses on coping skills for those specific challenges and bringing forth positive emotions like gratitude.  

Closing Thoughts

There is not one area that mindfulness could not improve in your life.  It unlocks the potential to be the best version of ourselves in every situation.  If you have been skeptical in the past, now is the time to dive in.  Try it in a solo session a few times – you’re welcome.

 

References

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/bdsm-meditation_b_10673686 

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/duke-universitys-koru-min_b_9375902

https://www.thegoodtrade.com/features/mindful-sex#:~:text=Mindful%20sex%20is%20making%20the,explore%20the%20mystery%20of%20sex

 

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